My Wife

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  1. Jofa

    Jofa Well-Known Member

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    Hey guys

    It seems I posted something like this eleven years ago and now it's happening again.

    My wife has suffered from clinical depression and anxiety for as long as I've known her. Eleven years ago, she had a breakdown and was in an outpatient program for two months. Slowly recovered and was functional for those years.

    My dad passed away suddenly in September and it's been very hard on her and my kids. In my wife's effort to be there for me, she took on more than she was really capable of. That said, she started down that road again and is now worse than before. We've decided that an inpatient program is best.

    Enter insurance

    They cover nothing out of network even though we shell out over $1000 a month in premiums.

    So we're in a rough spot with her right now (and my daughter is also in therapy as she is very similar to my wife).

    Last time it was scary because I didnt know if I was going to be a caregiver the rest of my life (which I would of course do). Now, stakes are higher, the kids are older and I have a son at NYFA who is torn between being there and here.

    I'm a Christian. I know not everyone is. In either case, I'm asking for prayer and for good mojo that we are able to get her the treatment she needs while I keep this family grounded.

    Thanks.
     
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  2. uwmcscott

    uwmcscott AGF Survivor Champ

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    Mojo on the way Jofa. Mental illness is rough, I am not stranger - best of luck in securing treatment for your wife and strength to you and the rest of your family until things can get better. And they will get better.
     
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    tonebender Well-Known Member

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    All spare mojo sent. Hang in there I know firsthand it's not easy.
     
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    Lamf77 Well-Known Member Supporting Member

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    Prayers and mojo your way for yourself and the family. Being positive and seeing a silver lining can be difficult when you are constantly bombarded emotionally and can not even catch a breath....but the silver lining is there. Hang in there.
     
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    I'm a Christian too, Brother. I'm also a suicide survivor (Mother-1973), and have been in and out of recovery from drug addiction and related depression for 4 decades. Doing good now for nearly three years. Depression is crushing-no possible way to describe the pain with simple words. My Mother's death anniversary is on March 14. Every year, it comes and goes, and I start spinning out sometime in FEB. I never knew. Friends of my parents warned my new wife in 1986 to keep an eye out for me every spring before March. This year wasn't terrible, but still, a painful, yet subconscious, anniversary that I have to navigate my life around. Hope that makes sense.

    My heart is heavy for your wife, children, and especially you. You are the key, but your load is heavy. I will be in prayer for your entire family. Contact me by PM if your would like to talk and pray on the phone.

    In Him,

    Most Sincerely,

    Michael Gilbert
     
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    I remember, Joe @Jofa

    Prayers for her, you and the whole family. You being through this situation with your wife/family, and you still offered some help a couple days back speaks lots about you. You have a big heart, and you´ll be listened, no doubt about it. Do all what´s in your hands.

    Stay strong, brother.
     
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    solteroblues Well-Known Member

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    many prayers to you and your family. I've dealt with this for many years, with my ex-wife, and my current wife also battles depression a good bit, so I understand.
     
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    God bless my friend
     
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    I do hope life gets easier for you and your family. Mojo sent.
     
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    Prayers and best wishes during a tough time...
     
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    We've got some experience with mental illness in our home too. The most important thing to remember - and as you have already seen - is that it will get better. With good professionals and support at home, it works and she will get better. Stay strong, and don't forget to take care of yourself as well. You're no good to them if you're a mess yourself. All our best wishes coming your way.
     
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    Major mojo flying your way, ol' friend! You got this...y'all got this!
     
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    There are ground breaking therapies out there. I'm no specialist, but I hope she finds the perspective she can be well contented in. Prayers to you and your family.
     
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    Prayers and positive Mojo to you and your family.

    Insurance premiums and the health care system are even a bigger, more expensive mess than they were before the "Affordable" law.
    Prayers and Mojo just in navigating that too.
     
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    Prayers to you and your family Joe
     
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    Prayers for you all!
     
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    Prayers for your dear wife, for your children and for you Joe. May God Bless you all in Jesus' Name. My prayers are coming now and will be repeated frequently for all of you. Hoping for better days ahead for all.

    Bob
     
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    Prayers and mojo for you and yours. Is there anything in network that you can get to help?
     
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    Sending good mojo to all.
     
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    First, prayers and mojo for you and your family. It's going to be a tough time. I think you can get through it.

    Dealing with the insurance companies here in America is my least favorite thing about this otherwise amazing country. I feel like a person ought not to have to go into poverty to take care of their health (or that of their family).
     
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